What to do and what not to do if exam results are not as expected

Every year, after exam results are published, a familiar scene repeats itself: joy in some homes, silence in others. For those who did not achieve their expected results or have failed, the moment is difficult. It is during this difficult time that some students make decisions from which there is no return. The question is: is an exam result really so significant that one must risk their life over it?

Why some students take extreme decisions
Psychiatrists observe that not every student facing poor results chooses the path of self-harm. Those who do often have pre-existing emotional vulnerability or a tendency towards impulsiveness. Added to this is the fear of social shame, friends doing well while they could not, wondering how to face society. This thought often becomes the biggest pressure. The guilt of not being able to meet family expectations also plays a major role.

What students should do
There is no need to bear everything alone. Instead of keeping the pain bottled up, share it with parents, siblings, friends or someone you trust. Just talking can significantly reduce mental stress.

Results are not the end of the road. Students who did not get their expected marks or scored unusually low in any subject have the opportunity to apply for re-evaluation. Additionally, there are opportunities to sit for exams again or pursue different paths. One exam does not determine a person's entire future.

Avoid comparisons. Comparing oneself to others' success is the biggest mental trap. Everyone's pace is different, and so is their path.

Create a realistic plan. Identify weaknesses in specific subjects and make a routine to move forward with priorities accordingly. The clearer the goal, the less mental restlessness there will be.

The role of parents and teachers
Having a friendly relationship with the family before and after the results is crucial. Instead of scolding or comparing when results are poor, the assurance of support is far more effective. Sudden changes in a child's behaviour, such as withdrawing, disinterest in sleep or food, or becoming excessively quiet, should not be ignored.

Schools and colleges also need effective counselling centres and trained teachers who can understand students' mental signals and extend a helping hand in time.

Where to seek help
Feeling mentally broken or having suicidal thoughts does not mean weakness. It is a signal that professional help is needed. The National Health Helpline 16263 offers mental health advice at any time. Additionally, private organisations like 'Kaan Pete Roi' emotional support helpline provide free mental health assistance through trained volunteers.

It is important to remember that an exam result is just one chapter of life, not the entire book.